Dina & I are in Bombay on some vacation, however our principle reason for being here is to buy a number of things for our wedding later in the year. So the past couple of days have been spent heading around the shops, working out exactly what it is we want, trying to get the shop keepers to show us exactly what we want, not what they think they can get away with selling to us and negotiating on the price!
First up, on Friday it was Dina’s dress for the Eastern Ceremony. We visited around 10 stores (some of those twice) in total (over 110km’s of driving according to Kalim!) on the Friday… and we did it! We found a beautiful dress which lends itself to the traditions of Indian weddings, but also has a bit of individualism to it, which suits Dina down to the ground.
It was really quite good fun. In India, shopping seems to involve a lot of sitting around waiting on the store keepers to show you their wares whilst the chai-wala brings you a drink. So it’s pretty relaxed until, that is, the store keeper brings you the things you’ve specifically asked not to see! If you say no green’s, invariably, of the first three colours you see, two will be green!
Saturday was planned around myself, the bridesmaids, ushers, flower girl and ring-bearer. So first I headed off to the tailor in Chembur (an area of Mumbai) who used to do all my suits when I lived here. I was originally planning to visit him for a work suit, but Dina and her Mum suggested I should speak to him about wedding suits as well. So I did a bit of research on prices and what would work well and looked through a few of their catalogues and combined a few ideas together. And their price was around 50% cheaper than any other price I’d seen!! So given the quality of their work, which I’ve seen & worn previously, I was pretty happy to say yes… it’ll be interesting to see what Dina thinks!!
So having sorted the groom out in the first shop he entered, we started looking for the rest of the guys taking part in the wedding. This involved visiting most of the stores we’d entered yesterday, but with no real success… and eventually it started to get a bit frustrating, to be honest. We eventually hit upon a store in south Bombay where the owner was actually well known to Dina’s family where there seemed to be a big selection… but could we all agree on a colour?! Err…no. So eventually we decided to go for majority rule and Dina & her Mum soon agreed on a colour… so job done.
So that was the ladies covered. The ushers proved to be a bit more difficult… as even when we had decided upon an outfit we couldn’t find enough copies of it to do everyone… so we had to say no. We’ve decided to return to the tailor of Chembur to talk through options with him & see if we can find something there which will do. It was good to be confident enough to say no, as I guess there is a lot of pressure to get the job done here, but saying no shows we’re determined to do this right, which is the best way to do it.
So the shopping is going well! Two more days of it to go, on Monday & Tuesday… let’s hope it continues well!